My mother has dementia, which I am sorry but at times I think she is faking cause can anybody be so out there!?! She has now started a new thing which is gross but I have a strong stomach but times its not possible not to vomit. Mom is now pooping and peeing EVERYWHERE like an untrained puppy. She wears depends but she will pull them down anywhere and go. Example such as in bed poop under her pillow, sits on edge of tub and does #1 and 2, in garbage cans, in the middle of floors, under coach coushins, she has even tried to do in the middle of Wal-Mart!! She of course uses her hand to wipe down there so now there is poo everywhere in her hair, mouth, face,walls, clothes, between her toes and under her finger nails. She is sly she will wait till I leave room to do it!! So she knows what she is doing! She likes to hide her poo I have caught her carry her poo to hide somewhere! She thinks it's funny!!!!! boy does that make me mad! Especially when I step in it!!! I try to hide most of this from the hubby and kids so they won't be grossed. WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!
Well we lived for the catheter for a year or so and she was having very strange bowel movements in the shower or constant diarrhea...i was told it was the disease so I just ignored it. It was like I had almost given up.
Then something inside me told me to do something b/c she kept whispering to herself that she hasn't even "gone to the washroom yet" what is happening? So I decided to take a risk and remove the catheter. My mom was a trooper and in the same day she started going to the washroom.
She was back to herself in terms of going to the washroom for about a year and things were good. A few months back (actually the day after my bday celebration...which is a day I WILL NEVER CELEBRATE AGAIN)....she had an overnight accident. I was a bit shocked as she was going to the washroom but anyways....a few months of accidents and we had to put her back on diaper. She was on underwear for about a year after removing the catheter.
Then a few months later this diarrhea started again where it was constantly flowing into her diaper. So she suddently, I guess after seeing constant diarrhea in her diaper, decided to stop going to the washroom.
Now when I ask her to go to the washroom, she refuses me all the time. In fact sometimes she hits herself b/c she hates when I mention the word. Then I get angry and then nothing good comes out of it. I have tried UTI testing, pro-biotics to stop/control the diarrhea...it's like I am absolutely helpless.
Now she has daily overnight accidents b/c she refuses to go the washroom at all. I feel like I am completely helpless. I also feel like a complete failure and useless. I swear I wouldn't wish this garbage disease on anyone...except for Trump.
Google "incontinence products". Lots of online medical supply stores can sell them to you based on her waist and hip measurement.
Also try the video about perimeal care. I have not watched that one.
There you will find many short videos showing you how to do things that you need to do for your father.
I could not find any simple books on basic nursing skills they are all too advanced for your needs.
It is much easier when you can watch someone do it in a video.
Raise his top leg a little as far as he can bear and roll him away from you. Visualize you standing on the left side of the bed and having rolled him his back is facing you and his left leg is slightly raised.
Clean everything you can reach.
If the sheets need changing untuck the bottom sheet and push it as far underneath as you can.
Tuck in the left side of the bottom sheet and roll up and push the rest of the sheet as far under him as you can.
I am hoping you have a hospital bed with rails.
Raise the rail on your side and go round to the right side of the bed.
Put his left leg down and roll him onto his back. bend upthe right leg and roll him over to his left side so he again has his back to you. Now complete the cleaning.
Pull out the bottom sheet.
Pull the clean sheet through underneath him and tuck it in.
If you are using side tab diapers push the clean one as far as you can then pull him towards you again to reach the other side and complete the diaper install.
If using pull ups do what ever you usually do to pull them up.
Before you roll him place a pillow on the side he will be facing and keep him covered with a light blanket for warmth.
This is always much easier if you have someone to help. All they need to do is support him while you do the dirty work. You can't do anything about the smell but they don't have to look at the mess.
Try and find a book on basic nursing care or maybe home nursing which should include some nice diagrams to help you. Your local library might have something.
Amazon is also a good place to look. See if you can find something used if money is tight. The shipping on used is allways $4.99 but the books are often pennies.
If I look before I post this I will loose the post but will see if I can find anything suitable.