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I feel for you. I, too, am wanting to bring my mother back home - she and I live together and I cared for her prior to NH placement following a blood clot - from a nursing facility. I am working on arranging in home care during my work day - my sibling prefers private duty caregivers and I prefer an agency. I want the best for my mother and want this to be the best decision, but agonize as you. You are in my thoughts.
Just be aware there will be many unexpected times the aide wii not and if you work will you be able not to go in and how about important plans that you have to miss because she does not want you to go or again the aide can not came that day=good luck toyou.
You received a lot of helpful comments, many of the members were correct in saying "yes", and I second the need for In-Home Assistance, ie. In-Home Care or Help- to help lighten the load on you and yours.
Do follow the website link in my profile. This website offers you everything you need for you and your mother's transition.
Not everyone who chooses to care for their elderly parents themselves rather than place them in a nursing facility makes that decision out of guilt. Yes, it is a challenge no matter what the circumstances are, but it can work. I'm certainly not saying that a facility is a bad choice, but at home care should be a consideration also.
Feeling something in one's heart without thinking with one's head is as out of balance as thinking without feeling. The best decisions are often arrived at from a combination of emotion and reason although much of our reasoning tends to be rather emotional and irrational at times.
I raise these questiions not to discourage but to consider the whole picture and the need to have a plan because passion alone without a plan wil go down in flames.
I've read so many stories of very good hearted people who felt what they did was right but got in over their hears and only after loosing their own health, finances, marriage and finding themselves alienated from their grown children and grand children did they regret not thinking and going mainly by their emotions which were controled not by them but by the emotional trigger points pressed by the very person who put them their to begin with.
Please don't let some of the responses scare you into changing your mind. You know in your heart what is right for your mother and if you feel positive about bringing her home, it will work out. There will be an adjustment period for both of you and your family, but it is a privilege and a rewarding experience to care for your aging parents. I'm an only child and my mother has Alzheimer's disease. She feels safe, secure and loved in our home with us and I don't worry every day and night wondering if she's cold, hungry or in pain. She receives extra care on her prescriptions so they are very reasonable. She still receives her social security check, so I use it to pay a sitter to stay with her when I need to be away or just need a break. We have home health, which is paid for by Medicare, so a nurse, an occupational therapist and a CNA all come to our home once a week. I would be throwing out the amount of food that she eats. It hasn't been a big burden financially. When the time comes that she can receive better care somewhere else, then I will consider a nursing facility, but for now, this is what works for us. Bless you. I wish you the best.
Just be aware depending where you live not only the state but the county and who runs the home care program you may not get very many hours of home care through medicare it depends on the nurese in charge I got very little help and most of the time they would call me and say they were short and my husband was complete care another pt. got weeks of care for a broken are and she lived with her daughter and sil and two grandchildren and was able to do things for herself and I was reported to APS just because the nurse did not like me so just because you have medicare does not mean you will get the help you need pay attention what Crowemangum has said he is very wise and has included good things to take into account.
I have some questions about the broader context of your question.
1. What medical problem(s) led her to be placed in a nursing home?
2. Medicare only pays for a limited amount of time in a nursing home, so how long has she been there and how has this been financed?
3. What is your immediate family situation, i.e. people living at home, your job and income, your own health, and how do others in your house, if any, percieve this possible change?
4. How much home health care; meals on wheels; etc. will your mother need each month?
5. Did you know that if a doctor orders home health care that medicare helps with part of that and that with someone around like yourself to cook there is a modest monthly fee for meals on wheels?
6. What level of care does her doctor say she needs if she were to go home with you? I know that in my own circumstances the cost of having my mother cared for at home, even with long term health care, would be more expensive and impossible in other ways than for her to contiinue in the nursing home.
7. Are you basically ready and up to running a nursing home for your mother at home which will take away much privacy, invade the boundaries of having your own space and a life, etc.?
8. If you are not an only child, are your siblings able or willing to help?
9. What is driving this decision? Is there any F.O.G. (fear, obligation or guilt) over something your mother made you promise her years ago that does not fit "emotionally" with her being in a nursing home?
I'm not questioning your decision, but I do think the whole context of this needs to be looked at seriously and everything needed already lined up before you get her home.
Four last questions.
1. Do you have Durable Power of Atty and if not, do you know what it is, why it is important and how to get it?
2. Do you have Medical Power of Atty and if not, do you know what it is, why it is important and how to get it?
3. Do you know if your mother has a living will or not?
I ould think if she falls within the guidelines of both--Yes she should be able maintain both these benefits in question--If you still have any doubts I am sure that a social worker or a direct call to medicare would be very useful.
yes she can and she would so much better off with family there is so much help out there for you like house cleaning, meals on wheels, in home nursing care. i take care of my mom and brother and it is hard sometimes takes alot of your time so be ready mentally and get all the help you can. and be very very sure to find time for yourself or else you will burn out bless you for helping her
First, how heroic of you to bring her out of nursing home and into your home. Good for you! Since you don't seem to know much about this, I am wondering if your mother has been qualified for Medicaid, where the NH has been paid for by govt. or totally by her SS and Medical. Is there any $$ owed to the NH? Basically, do they OWN her, do they have dibs on her income for past due...whatever?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Do follow the website link in my profile. This website offers you everything you need for you and your mother's transition.
I raise these questiions not to discourage but to consider the whole picture and the need to have a plan because passion alone without a plan wil go down in flames.
I've read so many stories of very good hearted people who felt what they did was right but got in over their hears and only after loosing their own health, finances, marriage and finding themselves alienated from their grown children and grand children did they regret not thinking and going mainly by their emotions which were controled not by them but by the emotional trigger points pressed by the very person who put them their to begin with.
1. What medical problem(s) led her to be placed in a nursing home?
2. Medicare only pays for a limited amount of time in a nursing home, so how long has she been there and how has this been financed?
3. What is your immediate family situation, i.e. people living at home, your job and income, your own health, and how do others in your house, if any, percieve this possible change?
4. How much home health care; meals on wheels; etc. will your mother need each month?
5. Did you know that if a doctor orders home health care that medicare helps with part of that and that with someone around like yourself to cook there is a modest monthly fee for meals on wheels?
6. What level of care does her doctor say she needs if she were to go home with you? I know that in my own circumstances the cost of having my mother cared for at home, even with long term health care, would be more expensive and impossible in other ways than for her to contiinue in the nursing home.
7. Are you basically ready and up to running a nursing home for your mother at home which will take away much privacy, invade the boundaries of having your own space and a life, etc.?
8. If you are not an only child, are your siblings able or willing to help?
9. What is driving this decision? Is there any F.O.G. (fear, obligation or guilt) over something your mother made you promise her years ago that does not fit "emotionally" with her being in a nursing home?
I'm not questioning your decision, but I do think the whole context of this needs to be looked at seriously and everything needed already lined up before you get her home.
Four last questions.
1. Do you have Durable Power of Atty and if not, do you know what it is, why it is important and how to get it?
2. Do you have Medical Power of Atty and if not, do you know what it is, why it is important and how to get it?
3. Do you know if your mother has a living will or not?
4. Do you know where your mother's will is?
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