move back to "that place where she lived with her husband and raised her children" which is my hometown which is not where she lives. I actually live in my hometown (small town) but hope to move to the city where she is and where my brother lives. How can we reverse that thought process of hers? That's all she talks constantly. She doesn't remember 5 minutes ago, so telling her anything does no good.
Assure her you will go tomorrow or as soon as the house is repainted or when you can take the time from work or whatever seems to satisfy her in the moment. Then change the subject.
We are planning to go next week, would you like to try this new ice cream?
As you said, she can’t rememver five minutes ago. Make the present moment pleasant and move on.