We moved Dad into AL when he started getting aggressive with Mom and others. He needed help with meds and some ADLs. Mom didn't want to continue to ramble around in a large empty house, so we moved her to a Continuing Care Community where she has a one bedroom IL apartment (not the same place that Dad is at). I worry about the stress factor on dad of telling him that we have moved mom out of the house and are preparing it for sale to pay for their care.
He doesn't seem to be worried about her being alone in that big house, doesn't mention it, or ask to go back there.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.