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I can’t imagine how hard that it must be to work in a facility. Yeah, I know that people are trained not to get personally involved in order to get the job done. Still, people are affected on some level.
NPR did a show on this topic once and it was very interesting. They interviewed a hospice social worker who said that he felt as though he couldn’t truly connect with a patient until he developed a personal connection with them.
I am glad that your husband has you to talk to about his feelings that he deals with in his profession.
Are you concerned about your husband continuing in this field?
Does he enjoy his work? Or is it taking a toll on him?
Thats a shame. I have never had a job where when we lost a coworker or the coworker lost a LO the bosses got involved. Usually one of the coworkers designate themselves to get the card and collect money for flowers. When it comes to a facility like ur DH works in, death is a given. It happens all the time.
I know my Mom was well loved at her NH. I went in after her death and picked up her belongings. I never went back. I never received a card.
There was this woman mrs s that he was “friends” with in the professional sense. I will call her Mrs. S. Mrs S was the resident for whom workers in multiple departments did linger a moment or more later to chat as she was so nice to be around.
Theres not even a card signing! Like seriously why aren’t staff provided an oversized card?
I can only speak to the facilities that I have personally seen 'in action'
They do have support systems. Either a SW, or in one case, a psychologist on staff to handle emotional issues.
Caregiving in this kind of situation is not for the faint of heart. You do need to be strong on your own--and support the other staff members.
I know the facility that housed my MIL for an entire 8 days(!) had so many levels of administration, one of them being a social worker for both the patients and CG's themselves. My MIL only lasted 8 days in this place, through no fault of theirs, she passed away very quickly. Grief counselors were johnny-on-the-spot. None of the staff knew her, but I know they have counseling available. The expectation in these places is that people are going to die--and many of the CG's get close to the clients.
I'm a little baffled by your post. Are you advocating for someone? Or just feeling like you don't have the necessary support? I hope you come back and clear this up.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Maybe he should speak to the facility social worker about setting up a system for staff to acknowledge deaths and send a card.
NPR did a show on this topic once and it was very interesting. They interviewed a hospice social worker who said that he felt as though he couldn’t truly connect with a patient until he developed a personal connection with them.
I am glad that your husband has you to talk to about his feelings that he deals with in his profession.
Are you concerned about your husband continuing in this field?
Does he enjoy his work? Or is it taking a toll on him?
I know my Mom was well loved at her NH. I went in after her death and picked up her belongings. I never went back. I never received a card.
Theres not even a card signing! Like seriously why aren’t staff provided an oversized card?
I am lost.
They do have support systems. Either a SW, or in one case, a psychologist on staff to handle emotional issues.
Caregiving in this kind of situation is not for the faint of heart. You do need to be strong on your own--and support the other staff members.
I know the facility that housed my MIL for an entire 8 days(!) had so many levels of administration, one of them being a social worker for both the patients and CG's themselves. My MIL only lasted 8 days in this place, through no fault of theirs, she passed away very quickly. Grief counselors were johnny-on-the-spot. None of the staff knew her, but I know they have counseling available. The expectation in these places is that people are going to die--and many of the CG's get close to the clients.
I'm a little baffled by your post. Are you advocating for someone? Or just feeling like you don't have the necessary support? I hope you come back and clear this up.