My Mom now 84 and her health is declining, we go to the Dr. and have test done every week. It seems we always end up with the age related conclusion, Constant pain and now confusion is joining in. We know that there is nothing else they can do but make her comfortable, NOW she has started to have spells where she makes no sense, she called me and asked me what to do with a pill, (do I swallow it?) , this morning she wanted to know if she should drink prune juice or not? I thought oh no she is really loosing it, an hour later she is fine. Is this a normal progression of dimentia? She has spells of confusion and then gets very aggrevated, This confusion seems to be getting worse and she is aware and frustrated that her mind is not working right. Does dimentia come and go at first? Any advise is helpful,,, thank you all in advance for the support and sahring your experiences with me.. It helps to know what others are going through....
I agree with Christina that it sounds like your mother may not be safe on her own. If she is now, that may not last, so it is good to plan ahead.
Best wishes to you as you start this caregiving journey.
With your Mom, you need to make statements or give simple directions for each task. You say she called you? I would say she needs to have someone with her at all times now. As caregivers of parents with dementia, we have to alter our perceptions to deal with them. Accept that Mom is going to get more confused and not act the same as she has. Be aware and don't fight it-- it is bigger than us. Read as many articles and visit threads here on Aging Care, ask questions, take care of yourself, too. Pace yourself and ask for all kinds of help. We are here for you, we care, we support you, we know how hard it is and how it hurts.
Big Hugs, Christina xo