My dad has been calling more often from the nursing home. He says he is going home. I tell him that he needs to stay there for now and that I will talk to the doctor. I am basically lying to him because he will never get out of the nursing home. That is his home now. But I don't know what else to say to him. He gets angry with me and sometimes he says that he was told that it is up to me whether he stays there or leaves. I really hate lying to him but the one time that I told him that he is home, he got even angrier. Does anyone have any suggestions what I can say to him?
Another thing,. My mom has dementia and she's basically forgot how to use or talk on a phone. Pretty soon you will look back on this and wish your dad were able to call you again. I'm not trying to make you sad or feel guilty. It's just I remember when mom would do things that I thought would drive me crazy and I would give anything if she could go back to the time when she could still do those things.
I would find out who is telling him its up to you. I would ask that he not be told this.
Using the phone is an ADL and it is possible that he is losing the ability to use the phone.
I don't know what I would do. Have you asked his nurse what's going on with your dad that's making him call you so frequently?
(((hugs))))