We have one PCA only 2 days, the rest are on my sister & myself. My mom does not want any help but me. I work part time, single and trying to help our sick brother, and spend time with my two kids. My mental and emotional health are drained. My sister wants to keep mom in the house as long as she can. My mom is bored, and wanders the house moving things, and then can not remember where they are, then says I took them! I take all her clothes, money and also thinks the neighbors come in and take things. She is very paranoid, and agitated. I'm having a hard time backing off, because she won't accept any new PCA's and my sister keeps telling me "we are her caregivers" but I'm the one who spends the most time, on the phone and in person. I need some advice on how to let my sister know I'm done. My health is suffering and I'm starting to resent both mom and sister.
I'm in a ruthless common sense must prevail mood today. So here goes;
1. It's not working for you.
2. Therefore the current plan no longer works. A new plan is needed.
3. A good look at Mother's needs (a current medical assessment/neuro exam may be useful).
4. Make a new plan. Base this on the medical facts & what care is required. Decide who/when/where/how this will be provided. Involve all the participants: Mother, sibling, medical team
5. Implement new plan.
Either your sister is part of a new solution, or she is the problem.