I'm the one taking care of my 97 yr old mom who now is failing her swallowing test at the hospital that i reported earlier as of 6 days ago she was eating great, and taking drinks in until the pneumonia hit they (hosp) fought hard to get it under control, but they think mom isn't passing their swallow test which the next one were going to be there for it because we were able to give her some nourishment and she took it without choking. the doc said tube feedings of any kinds isn't the way to go. so starve them is the only way. shes alert, talks in her own way shes been dx for 8 yrs and is a fighter so what do i do. don't like the starving method not ok with me, watching her want drinks and food and not giving it to her while she starve.
I was glad to have those meds for my daughter. Think it over.
If you don't feel your mom is dying then why would you enroll with hospice?
Even if this outcome was expected and was the best thing under the circumstances, it is still a huge loss to you and his entire family. Be kind to yourself.
One thing I did not see mentioned here is the Frazier protocol, which allows for plain water to be given between meals after really good oral hygiene as long as it does not cause distress to do so.
I'd like to give you a miracle, I wanted to give my daughter a miracle. Hard as it is to accept, you put your own grief aside and you make their final days as comfortable as possible. You give her to God and let Him do the rest.
On another note, I didn't understand why you had to pay $800 per month out of pocket on hospice. I paid nothing, it was all coveted by medicare. I am going back to read your post again. Doing it on my phone stinks