My parents have social security and my father was retired military. Do I need to contact the military and social security about his passing and will his monthly income he was receiving be transferred automatically to my mother for her care? I am lost here, everything I encounter is a learning experience as I have never been through this. I want to make certain I don't assume anything or count on the facility to make certain the coverage & money continues for my mother.
You can call 1-800-321-1080 or 1-(216)-522-5955. these are the Defense Finance and Accounting Service.
A funeral director should be able to help with the military funeral if desired.
She may also need to have changes made to her military dependents ID card to register as a widow and I would also contact the VA.
Then you'll need to talk to the NH to make adjustments in the cost of her care.
In general, it should be advantageous if the 1/2 of the husbands benefit is more than the wife's benefit, and have been married for ten or more years.
This is not a death benefit, but a routine benefit available to all married spouses. My wife had no USA income, nor any French income, either.
(If she had any French income, the USA benefit would have been reduced by some amount.)