Has anyone had a run in with phone/sweepstakes fraud? They are harassing my dad with calls. How can we get them to stop? I know, "Don't answer the phone." But these guys are relentless and calling up to five times a day. Around 10 pm this evening it was one right after the other. When I said he needs to stop calling he said F-you.
Started with sweepstakes in the mail. " You qualify for $X. Send us $X and you can win more." He did. He sent $9 here and $30 there. He usually overdraws his account monthly. If these people aren't calling then they sold his name to a group of Jamaicans who are ruthless. And obviously rude. We've talked with my dad and he says he won't do it again but then he does. Any suggestions???
Check out our fraud and scams section to find other suggestions on how to stop your parent from sweepstakes abuse.
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https://www.agingcare.com/Frauds-Scams
You can also try contacting these companies directly to have them take you of their mailing list. Or maybe the post office?
Karie H.
There are two good whistles for this - The Fox 40 and the Tornado. Both are available at a good soccer shop or on line. Neither has a pea in it and they are so shrill and loud that you can stand 100 yards from a player and he will hear it.
Good Luck and Good Whistling
Norm
We had to take control of her finances because she wasn't paying her bills and her insurances were cancelled. It was really difficult. But what we did was have my husband added on the account as a joint signature. She was also walking 2 miles to the bank and taking hundreds of dollars out every few days. It took 2 months for us to catch on to what she was doing. We have no idea what she did with all this money. She always had a problem with lottery tickets but I don't see how she could have spent that kind of money on lottery tickets.
Someone could have asked her to borrow money and she wouldn't remember within minutes. So we don't know if she gave it to someone or what happened.
I would make out her checks for her bills and she and my husband (her POA) would sign them. We took out her money monthly but only gave her small amounts at a time.
I called the federal number that puts your phone number on the "Do Not Call List". She agreed to credit cards and there were charges added for various things automatically that she didn't even know she had credit cards. Anyone I could get an address for I sent letters signed by my husband indicating that she had alzheimers and was no longer of sound mind. In the case of the credit cards I was able to get a few closed and the balanced erased. I sent letters to all the organizations that were asking for money.
But I want to prepare you. This was really difficult to do. She would be fine with us but then whenever she had a chance she would tell anyone who would listen that we were stealing her money and everything. But we didn't have any choice. She was going through everything. She wasn't paying her bills and the house insurance and her health insurance were being cancelled for non payment. It took her about a year to realize that she needed help.
Unfortunatly, the world would be a better place if we didn't have to worry about other people. People look for the elderly and they know exactly how to get what they want. We had a senior agency helping us and the driver offered to cut Mom's shrubs. I am sure she thought it was for free because my husband and I always did them. They worked about 3 hours by neighbors accounts and in Mom's checkbook, she marked 45.00 but when the check came in the check was for $450.00. They didn't even finish the job. We did get her money back but the employee did keep his job.
If we don't watch out for our parents, other people are watching to take advantage of them. I hope this helps...you are not alone. God Bless!
Sorry about the typos. This year Spring came late and all these trees, flowers, etc. began to bloom at the same time. My eyes have been on fire for days, my sinus are inflammated (is that a word?) and I can't breathe long enough to sleep soundly. I'm so irritable I've written down the number of every telephone marketer across the country that's been harassing me for over a week and called them back at least 10 times.
I've tried being nice and polite, but it doesn't work. Some work from home and use their cellphones. If it's a man, I ask for my girlfriend (his wife); if it's a woman, well, figure it out. Yesterday was the first day none of them called to sell anything, only to apologize and promise me my # will be removed from their list immediately. My sanity is non-negotiable.
Okay family, let me see if I can go back to bed.
Always at your service,
-- ED
Change the telephone # (preferably unlisted), and be careful whom you give it to. And avoid signing up for anything like sweepstakes, claiming a "free" laptop on the Internet. Just about everyone of them if a scam preying on people who don't know better. If there's a charge you don't recognize on your bank statement, call their claims department. I once ordered some business cards online and next thing I know at least 6 other companies (all under the same umbrella) began to charge "membership" fees at the tune of $14.95 a month. In a nutshell, stuff like this can usually be avoided if you don't give out personal information like DOB, SSN#, and your bank account #. There's no such thing as a free thing in this country. There never has been and never will be.
-- ED
getting harassing calls - they won't charge you. I wish I had an answer, but the "do not call list" does not work and they "don't do anything" if someone calls you.- even if you report them
I just wish I could stop the numbers that don't have a phone number listed.
I have used one of these for years, Works for Me!
As for the phone scams there were two tricks that I had heard about and both were fun and sucessful. The first when I answered the phone I told them I would go get her. I put the phone down and 10 minutes later- oops they were gone. One time I had them on speaker and listened to them getting pissed off (remember, they are in a boiler room and are dialing for dollars- each minute they spend holding they are loosing a potential victim). My favorite thing was a loud whistle. When they called I had a whistle by the phone- a few loud blasts into the receiver and they never called back.
@ScarletBegonias: don't want to change the phone number. They've had it for 40+ years and he has Alzheimer's. He's gotten cranky when I change his sheets. I don't think he'd ever remember a new phone number. But I'm not completely ruling it out.
Thanks everyone for your help & suggestions!
As for the mail---I do not know if they can decide what may be a scam or not...but again you can run this by your postal department.
You may also want to discuss matter with your local chapter of AARP or senior service organization.
Good luck-
Hap
Good luck! :)