Anyone having trouble with a parent in nursing home that complains about lack of privacy and having to share a bathroom? This is the hardest thing for my mom to accept in the nursing home. Lack of privacy in nursing home is making my mom angry and driving me crazy. I hear about this every time I go to visit.
The only way around this seems to be a private room. If she is private pay, you can request one. If she is on Medicaid, you can still request one, but you have to pay the difference between a shared room and a private room. Each home is different is how many private rooms they offer.
Good luck with this. This is one of the things that is very understandable, but hard to change. If they are really sick, it's not such an issue, but when they are alert, it is very hard to lose the privacy they are used to.
Carol
The sad truth is that money and families have been having problems since the dawn of time, and you can even find instances in the bible of disputes - the only difference these days people live longer with better medical care and have more assets for family to fight over.
Stuff is just that - stuff. A friend who is a mediator always reminds me that usually issues involving family are very complex because of the emotions attached to differing viewpoints. It must be terribly hard to have to go through a court system rather than just figure things out for a parent privately. Hopefully it will be over soon and you will not have that to stress over any more.
As far as privacy in nursing homes goes - isn't it interesting how what would be unacceptable for us is ok once someone gets old and sick. Sharing a room or bath with family is sometimes stressing the limits of privacy - but asking someone to share with a stranger at the most vulnerable time in their lives is wrong. The only way it will change is when new buildings or remodels are done on existing nursing homes people need to talk about it publically. Otherwise no doubt we will be facing the same thing when we have no one who is able to manage us in a home environment.