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If you have Power of Attorney you could check with their bank. Also, you could check with an Elder Law attorney for advice. Your state may have funds for this, so check their site under aging services or a related name and look for contact information There may be federal funds, but likely they would be locally administered so you'd probably have to go through your state for that. Carol
Deb- The short answer is - no. Sorry to be so blunt but taking care of a home and any updates are the responsibility of the home owner and family. Often elders let repairs go because of cost and difficulty finding a trustworthy handiman. It means they save their monthly income but it's at the cost of their biggest asset, a home. I'm in the same boat and am evaluating the cost of going without the extra funds versus fixing it up. I'm finding that repairs might equal half the selling price so it's not worth it. Selling sooner and having the money to help Mom now is more important to us. My mom might live for another 4-5 years and I don't want to be saddled with paying property taxes, utilities and upkeep for property that will not benefit me. I'd rather spend my time visiting mom and enjoying her company, that's what means most to her now as well.
If the house won't sell or if you feel your parent might NOT want to sell, you can apply for medicaid (state aide, see the Money and Legal section of this site) to supplement their rent at assisted living (ALF). You must ensure the ALF accepts medicaid and, if yes, s/he might be required to share a room or apartment. The state will place a lien on the home for the total amount spent on your parent's care. So, when your parent passes away, the state will force the sale to recoup their money. However, some states make exceptions if there are dependent children or disabled or handicapped family members that need to live in the home. The best thing to do is lay out the scenario and speak with the state agency responsible for medicaid.
It's a lot to deal with but not impossible. Best of luck to you and your parent(s).
Given the current economy and real estate, any "renovations" may not increase the selling price. Your best bet is to speak with a real estate inspector first and a real agent second. (DO NOT sign up to list the house until you're certain you want to sell). From the inspector find out if there are any problems that will prevent approval of a loan on the part of the buyer - leaking roof, rotten siding, asbestos siding, etc.. If you have your parents PoA, it might be possible to take a home equity loan to pay for repairs but it would be due when the house sells, thus reducing the amount you'll get.
Speak to the realtor about cosmetic things that can increase the selling price - consider these: mow and weed eat the yard, put down fresh mulch and weed inhibitor around existing shrubs; replace old window treatments with new shades or blinds, pull UP carpets to reveal hardwood floors, paint wood paneling, add new pulls on drawers or put down new vinyl floors in kitchen and bathroom. These are relatively minor cosmetic changes that can improve the appearance with little cost to you.
Thank you Lynn. Your advice is right on target with what we've been thinking these past few months. We've been battling between "sell as is" vs. sprucing up the house to attract more potential buyers. Just as you noted, few repairs have been made on the house over the last 25 years because mom was satisfied as it was, and she said she didn't want to "waste her money making it nicer for whoever lives there after she dies." I'm very impressed that you opened your own adult day care center. That is a huge undertaking and a ton of responsibility, but there is so much need for these centers!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Carol
If the house won't sell or if you feel your parent might NOT want to sell, you can apply for medicaid (state aide, see the Money and Legal section of this site) to supplement their rent at assisted living (ALF). You must ensure the ALF accepts medicaid and, if yes, s/he might be required to share a room or apartment. The state will place a lien on the home for the total amount spent on your parent's care. So, when your parent passes away, the state will force the sale to recoup their money. However, some states make exceptions if there are dependent children or disabled or handicapped family members that need to live in the home. The best thing to do is lay out the scenario and speak with the state agency responsible for medicaid.
It's a lot to deal with but not impossible. Best of luck to you and your parent(s).
Given the current economy and real estate, any "renovations" may not increase the selling price. Your best bet is to speak with a real estate inspector first and a real agent second. (DO NOT sign up to list the house until you're certain you want to sell). From the inspector find out if there are any problems that will prevent approval of a loan on the part of the buyer - leaking roof, rotten siding, asbestos siding, etc.. If you have your parents PoA, it might be possible to take a home equity loan to pay for repairs but it would be due when the house sells, thus reducing the amount you'll get.
Speak to the realtor about cosmetic things that can increase the selling price - consider these: mow and weed eat the yard, put down fresh mulch and weed inhibitor around existing shrubs; replace old window treatments with new shades or blinds, pull UP carpets to reveal hardwood floors, paint wood paneling, add new pulls on drawers or put down new vinyl floors in kitchen and bathroom. These are relatively minor cosmetic changes that can improve the appearance with little cost to you.
I'm very impressed that you opened your own adult day care center. That is a huge undertaking and a ton of responsibility, but there is so much need for these centers!