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I have an elderly blind friend who I take to the hairdresser and nail shop, go shopping for, go out to lunch with, do errands, open mail for and do correspondence for, for the past 7 years. Subsequently she has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and is in hospice. She needs more nursing care and has long term care ins, I have assisted her in picking an agency to come in and assist her more. Her only daughter is deceased, and 2 adult grand children are not very attentive. I just want to know if there is anything legal form I can get notarized to protect me in the event her grandchildren get mad at me for helping her.

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Depending on what state you live in. Arkansas wants to act as if they care but they do not. I read your question and I had to reply to it. My own blood mother is in an assisted living and the POA has even had a lawyer to write up something to you. My family and I have never been in a hassle situation but when it comes to power and money, everything changes. If you would just like to see her and take care of her, I would watch them very carefully. If they start not telling you anything, then if I had it to do over again, I would have done it much sooner and ask for guardianship.But of course, I don't know if you qualify for that but I would sure get a lawyer and start on something. I cry every morning and night because I can not see my mother. There are some Devils out there. And if you get an Elder Attorney make sure he knows what he is doing. The attorney my parents used had a "form" that did not even pertain to them. Lawyers use a standard form and get a lawyer that does not just print something off to get finished with you.
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Seek out an elder attorney for her. Make sure it is one who has been practicing elder laws for a while. If she has an estate make sure it is in a will and that either you or the attorney is the executor. You should also receive some kind of monetary means for your assistance.
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Should her family start questioning you about your 'reward' for helping your friend when they can't be bothered, simply tell them "Its not an adventure, its a job." Nobody else is willing except you, so why should they get credit.
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Family members can get a bit 'crazy' when a loved one declines or dies. I would have her speak with an attorney about her situation. If you are abiding my her wishes, I wouldn't think there would be any harm. If she doesn't have advance directives/living will, hospice staff can assist her in the completion of these forms. She can contact the area agency on aging, they have a legal referral service where she can obtain legal services free of charge (if she qualifies) for documents such as a power of attorney and/or a will. I think it's wonderful you are helping your friend in her time of need. We can only honor our family/friends wishes and know this will be the last thing we can do for them. I'm sorry your friend is ill, spend time with her while you can. Good friends are hard to find.
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I don't understand. What could you get in trouble for? If your friend is competent, she can make choices for herself and accept your help. Are you receiving any money or benefit from your friend? If so, you may want to document any money transaction so that it will not be questionable.
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Who has POA and who is the Executor of her Estate? Does she have a Will set up? Does she have a long-standing good relationship with any law office?
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You should ask for help from the county social services. They do have lawyers who would at least talk to her about her situation.
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