They are investigating my sister putting my mom's social security and pension benefits into an account without my mother's name since this is my mother's income and not my sister's. They said it is illegal. Is this true? My sister also closed out my mother's $30,000.00 CD without her permission. Does anyone know if we can get all mom's money returned back to her? Does Protective Services really help the elderly people? The lady seemed to be on mom's side and I want to know if she can be swayed by my very vindictive sister and not get mom's money returned.
Please go easy on yourself hon, you don't deserve this.
As for having to make that decision to take her off the ventilator and the lung clearing machine. this was the kindest thing you could ever do for her. Yes, it was. Did you really think she wanted to stay on all that? Would you, if it were you? You know you wouldn't. I think you have whipped yourself enough and now it's time to know that this is what she probably wanted. I too, have argued with my mother, who has Dementia, because she would not accept help and she wanted to be "the Mom" who was taking care of me even now. I have learned so much from this wonderful group of people and my guilt is almost gone. Yes, I resented going to see her or do things for her too. Guilt has a nasty way of worming itself into our thoughts. It doesn't have to be though. You did what you had to do. You didn't move to the other side of the earth either. Concentrate on the good times everytime a guilty thought pops into your head. Start pushing those guilty thought out. You cared and that's what matters and right now, even though she's not with you, she knows you cared. You'll find out someday. :)
Good luck,
Carol
It took me ten years to finally disown this son. It is so hard to feel you, as parent, are being so abused by one of your own loved children. My heart goes out to your mom and to you. Keep on fighting your sister and do not let her get away with this. Piver
I'm sure it hurts your mother terribly because one of "her own" has done all this damage to her. I do hope you have an attorney working on all of this. If so, talk to him about what charges may be brought against your sister. It sounds to me like she is desperately trying to keep her hands on money and will go to any lengths to get it. Most of these people that she may call are not going to listen to her....just make sure that all entities that mom deals with have copies of her new POA, especially the bank.
I am glad you are there to be with mom while this is being straightened out. Keep us informed of your progress.
Jam
Is your mom in need of financial assistance, such as Medicaid, with her assets being removed from her in this way? If so, when she applies they will look into what she has "given" to relatives lately and your sister's actions will come to their attention, too.
Sometimes I am really, really glad that my parents had no assets for us to fuss about. And that none of the healthy children berudge Ma using the few hundred extra dollars she has each year to help the one with health and financial problems. The idea that our parents "owe" us an inheritance, and owe it to us equally causes more hurt than I'd want to deal with.
procedures will start.u can challenge ur sister butu half to have proof of negligence
Account was open up on my mothers name(who is in a nursing home. Which her husband had $30000.oo) in there account when she was out in the home) only. My sister in law put her email on the account and than when home and got on line banking and transfer money from my mother joint account to her husband personal account and tan to her account under her name...i know now by spousal impoverishment law that she could keep some money from her s.s check, but she had all that money why take from my mom. The bank said that by law she still did not have the right. Will protective service help? She just keeps saying that she had the right...because she could take the $880.00 dollars from her s.s. check. Thanks.