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We’re not near retirement time but certainly both notice we repeat and forget more. Hopefully we’re kind and compassionate enough not to point it out. I hope you’ll both cut each other some slack and seek medical advice when it’s appropriate
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I guess this all depends on what's going on with your husband. If he is slipping into cognitive decline and/or dementia, then maybe it's not worth telling him that you already told him. Maybe you can try to find out from him if he remembers talking about X yesterday. That you're curious and wondering if he's OK.

I'm sure his comment did sting but you might have to get used to comments like this and not take them personally if he is declining.

If his memory is going, he will ask questions and not remember. It can be frustrating but you should try to find a way to not be annoyed. Give shorter answers on the repetitive rounds of something already discussed if you don't feel like rehashing everything.
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Nobody likes being reminded that their short term memory is faltering. It's a scary thing to face, right? Every time I forget something, I feel a bit panicky....like omg, am I going down the dementia highway now?

Your husband's not-so-nice comment stung you, and your not-so-nice comment stung him. Compassion is best when dealing with one another's shortcomings.

My advice is to have him make an appointment with his PCP for a full medical workup including a cognitive evaluation. Then you'll both know what's going on and if any cognitive impairment is involved.

Good luck
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