i live in NC, caring for an 86 yr old man. his family all live out of state. they 'made' me get a credit card in my name but i pay his bills with it and ive gotten behind on keeping it paid- thats right i pay for it as well! he is currently in the hosp for dementia related issues and his dr wants him in a skilled nursing home- i have NO WHERE to go. his family made me get rid of my car 2 yrs ago- ive been caring for him for 2 years. the 1st year i begged for payment of some sort. i also pay for my own food. he and his kid's can afford payment. they refuse to take out taxes as well.. HELP PLEASE!!
Will you be my sister? If it were a family member caring for your mom would you feel differently about paying them? Would you deduct room and board from what is customary? There are so many horrible stories on the site about family caregivers and the abuse they take from other members of their dysfunctional families.
BTW, in Miami, not too long ago there was a couple who had to pay restoration and were actually charged with kidnapping for hiring an illegal, underpaying them, being abusive employers nd what really got them in hot water is they had taken away her passport which translated into kidnapping! If an undocumented worker who was working illegally was protected from employer abuse, then you certainly have a right to expect protection.
Good luck
L