She says she is in pain all the time, but I have dropped in after she said she was going back to bed and she is up and about. She says she is in pain I am not sure how much more recently. She definitely tries everything to get us to visit. She is in IL and has had them call an ambulance twice in 3 days. The 2nd time she did not go to the hospital. What can we do? It is hard to listen to, but we can't go over all the time we find it makes things worse.
People who have dementia, can't continue to live alone indefinitely. Frequent phone calls and even those to 911 may increase, because the person is frightened, anxious, confused, etc. And diagnosed pain may be complicated by the dementia too. People with dementia can't be ignored. It may be that she needs a higher level of care.
What is the mental status of the woman you are writing about? Any dementia? Any diagnosed mental illness? Does she have any chronic medical conditions? Where is her pain? What does she take for it? What health care professionals does she see for it?
What did the ER doctor say about her pain? Did she just start complaining about the pain? Maybe it's her way of getting attention, but she should see her own doctor or a specialist to find out the cause. Perhaps, she is depressed and needs to be on medication.