I've found that I have totally lost myself over the years while devoting so much of myself caring for my mother and I can honestly say that I miss "me". All that I have left of me are the distant memories of how I used to be, and its left me feeling so empty inside. I am in my mid 50s and feel like an empty shell. I dont know how to even start getting my life back on track so that I can feel alive again.
Does anyone know of any self help book that might be of some help?
I do feel your pain. I am the primary caregiver for my husband, grand daughter, daughter (recent double mastectomy), my father (multimorbidities) and my mother, physical and mental disabilities. I've been caring off and on for my mother for the past 32 years.
I am reading Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend. I highly recommend it! You will be stronger when you put their principles into practice.
Please keep in touch. We're here for you. Hang in there!
A caregiver can become codependent by overextending themselves, so reading about that would be helpful. I really like Melody Beattie's writing e.g. Codependent No More. She has written others.
Good for you for taking these steps towards your healing. Do you have a therapist/counsellor? I have found that counselling is very helpful.
Be sure to take time for you every day.
Good luck and keep in touch.
Hugs and prayers - Joan