My dad is an 87 yo Parkinson's patient with both urinary and bowel incontinence. He is also a Veteran who receives Aid and Attendance help 3 times a week in the AM. The problem is this: is there service for incontinent patients where you can call and have them come to your home to clean up the patient, pretty much at a minutes' notice?
The only way is to have Aids in the house with your Dad all day and night, every day.
(I don't mean to offend, I think a lot of us dream of such a service LOL)