So, my sister in law is caring for my dad but needs to go to work. She wants to hire her son to work part time for dad. Grandson agrees because he wants to do it for cash money on the side to supplement reduced unemployment he's getting since going back to work Post-Covid (he was getting more during Covid than he makes at his bartender job). It's a bit of a scam and I don't like it, although I think grandson would do a good job. I know the tax rules on household help etc, so please don't quote me them. I will tell my sister-in-law that I want to follow the rules for home workers. It will create more unrest between my sibs who will think it's ridiculous to follow these rules for family members.
Any suggestions?
I was not trying to "skirt the law," but the terms of employment were uncertain, since neither of us knew how long this arrangement would continue, since the grandnephew was between jobs and I was trying to get my father into an assisted living place. He was also a family member, which is why the 25-year-old was willing to do it for minimum wage.
The short-term arrangement worked out well for all concerned.
Were I you and 1) dad WANTS to go into a facility and 2) the primary caregiver (your SIL) is looking to head back to work, I would start the process of placing dad, virus or no. First of all, there's no guarantees that this virus will be over in 6 months. Then, if anyone in dad's house is going out into the big bad world, there is always the possibility of infection coming in. Add to the mix that it's not always quick or easy to get placement - my nephew and his wife are trying to place her dad with dementia, and it is taking months - especially if dad is going to apply for Medicaid.
I would start the process. And in the meantime, if DAD is ok with your nephew caring for him (and you have said yourself it's likely going to be a short term thing) then give your blessing. The only potential problem is the Medicaid look-back period, and I would think he's allowed to give money to your brother and SIL to cover the expenses of his living in their house; then THAT money can be used to pay your nephew.
EVERY situation is different.
Good luck and God bless all the caregivers.