My DH recently received formal diagnosis from his primary neurologist that he has Alzheimer's. (Based on earlier brain mri, and developing symptoms and behaviors). We had an evaluation/assessment done by the clinic's cognitive neurologist. it was determined that it is stage 1, mild. All our finances are in both of our names. Our end of life documents currently include that I am his POA...and he is my POA. I handle paying bills, managing the checkbook and monitoring our online banking. DH is totally in the manipulative, stubborn, angry, controlling, unreasonable part of dementia. His hackles are raised and anger button pushed when I mention paying for services (of nearly any kind...home repair, in home care services, home maintenence etc.) He will never agree to voluntarily turn over all financial control to me. I am reaching the point where I know I will have to engage these services....even over his objections. My question....do financial institutions have policies and procedures that allow for them to 'monitor' unusual account activity when it may be initiated by just one of the account holders? If so, does anyone have experience with how I might inform our bank? I somehow feel it is needed just because of my husband's unpredictable behavior. I don't know (or trust?) That he wouldn't figure a way to drain our accounts. I'm not even sure I'm asking the right question. Suggestions shared experiences...advice?