My 86 yo mom has dementia and lives with my dad in independent living at an assisted living. We moved them there from their long time home 9 months ago. My question is should I continue to take my mom out for drives etc which she really enjoys even though when we return she ‘freaks out’ as soon as we start walking in the building and insists she is not going in, says ‘I don’t live here’ and ‘I will not go in there no way’ etc. Obviously this is very distressing to all. Once we coax her back to her bedroom she will settle down but sometimes it is a real battle and I hate causing her this agitation and anxiety thus we have not been going anywhere for a couple months now. Please share your opinions and thoughts! I would say she is getting to end stage but not quite there, recently not liking any food or drink has to be coaxed to eat but can walk unassisted.
Thanks in advance!