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After over a month of relatively pleasant phone calls with my Mother in Assisted Living, this morning's Mother's Day call went sideways. She was agitated and blamed me for her being there. "There is nothing wrong with me, I have no Dementia or Delusional Disorder, you signed the paperwork to put me here". I tried to tell her just to take it one day at a time, but she said that after this next appointment at the end of May, either I was coming to get her, or she "would find other means" to go home. Of course, her home has been sold. I'm wondering, I've been putting off telling her that her home is sold, because I was worried about her going into deep depression. However, she will never be happy, no matter what I tell her, so I'm wondering if maybe I should have her Social Worker go ahead and tell her that her house has been sold. Thoughts??

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She’s not going to remember if you tell her. Don’t tell her. If she asks about the house redirect her or tell her a therapeutic fib.
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For now Mom can go nowhere with the lock downs. I read a previous post and you have guardianship. So your in controll.

You could tell her one time. Depending how far along she is in her Dementia, she may forget and start in on you again. They always want to go home. Sometimes thats a childhood home. Or the first one she had as a married woman. Not necessarily the last one she lived in.

Since you have guardianship, there is nothing she can do. If push came to shove, is she with it enough to hire a moving van to take her home. For now, try not to let it bother you. Go along with her to a point. "We will see Mom when this lockdown is over". If she actually takes the initiative to move out, then she is going to have to be told. And then if her short term is shot, she won't remember that.
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I don’t think you should tell her. She has a disease that sadly makes it so she will never understand. Telling her will only agitate her further.
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