My husband is 69 and has had dementia for 4 years. He can be volatile and obnoxious at times. Recently he fell down a flight of stairs and sustained a brain injury as well as broke all his ribs in multiple places on one side. He was hospitalized for 3 weeks and then moved to a rehab for the past 3 weeks. He is stir crazy and no longer receiving rehab but just stuck in the facility. He has attacked nurses 3 different times and has moderate to severe sundowning. The facility is in Maine where the accident occurred but we live in PA. I have been told that assisted living is best for his safety and mine. He is sometimes rational and begs to be taken home, promises to behave, etc. His dementia is definitely worse than before the fall. I am torn about the best next move. All is complicated by the fact that we live 8 hours away. I do not feel safe driving him home. How does one decide?
google care advisors, they are realtors of sort . They are paid by the facility you place with. get one who is local , who knows the area, your needs , your finances, their reputation. They will meet you for tours, will meet with you with the facility. Basically direct it all and streamline your search. I used a company called care patrol by me . A franchise. I placed my in laws and my mom here. And my mom previously with an independent in another state.
He will not get better, this is a progressive disease that has no cure, His promises mean nothing as his brain is broken. He is in the aggressive phase, you will not be able to handle him in your home. He is a danger to you.
Hire a medical transport to move him.
I wish you the best!
Find a facility close to you and hire medical transport to get him there.
Are his behaviors being addressed with medication?