Thinking about taking 85 year old Mom with early stage dementia on family vacation but... will be staying at two different hotels in two different Cities with 3-nights in Savannah GA and 3-nights in Charleston SC. Can't include Mom in all outside activities so ideally I want to hire a CNA or PCA to provide in-room attendance/care for maybe 3-5 hours per day. Mom also has occasional incontinence issues. Is this something that can be arranged with a local At-Home Care Service?
The trip, being left alone in the room, not being included in family activities (that's a blow in and of itself)...it's just too much for someone even w/o dementia. Is there a specific reason why you want to take her if she won't be involved with family? Is it a care issue for leaving her at home?
If you do hire temporary caregivers and let her remain at home, start researching early so you can find good ones you can trust. Or perhaps investigate a short respite care at a facility; at least she'd have 24/7 assistance available.
A new caregiver on top of two new locations is too much for your mother, even assuming you can find a trustworthy service to provide one; and besides it's not like hiring a sitter for a sleeping baby.
As a courtesy to the hotel, you'd better ask if they can provide waterproof mattress protectors. If not, take your own; and if you don't want to cart them around with you then just leave them behind with the hotel bedlinen.
That does sound like a lot of travel for an elderly lady, too. What mode of transport are you using?
She will probably need a TB skin test or chest X-ray and a Doctors note stating that she is in good health.
She will be "on vacation" and you and your family can enjoy your vacation as well.
I placed my Husband for Respite and I must tell you I did worry that I would not be able to bring him home after several weeks of "institutional" living but he adjusted to the facility quite well and getting him home was no problem at all.
The facility will contact you if there are any problems.
You can have friends stop in and check on her as well.
This will also give you a break from care giving and that is what you need and what the family needs.
Your Mom may not like it at first but she would not do well with the travel as well as nights in a different hotel room.
If you insist and truly feel that you need to take her do a search for Agencies that will come in and watch her. If she has no health problems you may just need a "companion" if she needs to be changed or fed you may have to get someone else that is qualified. It depends on the regulations that the particular agency follows.
You will probably still need the medical note stating that she is in good health as well as the TB skin test.
have her involved in a 3-4 hour long outdoor ferry tour hence my inquiry regarding an In-room Care Giver attendance. I plan on calling a few Home Care Services for a opinion before making a final decision.
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