I am wiped out and just can't take the stress of a full time job, being full time care giver, mom to a 12 and 19 year old and a good wife at the same time. I really need a way to convince her the the best place for her is in an assisted living facility. She is so lonely during the day and craves social interaction. When I get home from work she is very demanding of my attention and it just isn't fair to my family, or to me.
Your Mother sounds very positive about the move and that is what your siblings should accept. It is her life and she should do what is best now before someone else really has to make that decision for her in the future.
You are absolutely right, it is guilt that causes alot of the problems within the sibling group. Mine handle with mean remarks directed at my family. Mother says they are just teasing but this is teasing as I've never known. Good luck and God bless!
Nancy, I did take your advice and talk to her the other day when we were alone. To my delight, she thinks it is a great idea and I am scheduling some visits for later this week. She realizes what is happening in our relationship and is going to try her best to adapt to the change. She was optimistic about all of the activites that would be at her doorstep so to speak! :)