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She is not going to remember anyway why bother? Or if it is a traumatic thing for her and she does remember it will tumble around over and over in her mind causing her great stress.
I told my mother who has dementia and lives in the moment that my son was in a car accident. The next time I visited her the first thing she asked about was my son. She had been upset for a week. I never told her that my brother died 2 years ago and since he was adopted at age 3 she does not have a memory of him like she does about her 3 daughters. We no longer tell her that her mom died in 1980 and that her husband died in 1997. We just say Dad is at work and that her mother does not drive and can't come to visit.
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It's nice to provide her photos of the family, but IMO, if her memory is very poor, there may not be a benefit to it. Granted, all cases are different, but with my cousin, she has no short term memory. She recalls people's faces from years ago at the most. So, a photo of my brother when he was 8 years old means the world to her, since she recalls that, but a photo of him today with his grandchildren means nothing. She doesn't know who they are and even if I tell her, she can't relate. I might as well give her a photo of strangers.

So, I just put old photos in there, except that I do provide her current photos of her with her roommate in the facility. She knows who they are, but still prefers the old photos from many years ago.

I suppose it really won't matter though, because she will likely not recall who your grownup son and his boyfriend are when she looks at the photos.
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