We told our mother that her husband had died the night that it happened, but every few hours she asks where he is? Telling her that he died over and over seems unnecessarily upsetting. After the first few times we started saying that he was away at the moment and she forgets she even asked seconds later. Can anybody who went through this offer any advice? Then there is the subject of the service. Thank you
Our special needs 18 YO son would get onto me for lying, so I taught him that we have the truth and we have "Mommy's truth" .
This has helped with the lose of several pets and almost all of my aunts and uncles.
Get a picture,
Have his pic put on a cuddly doll.
Don't keep making her relive it
I have learned that you take one with dementia along with their wish. So when she asks where is her husband, and if it upsets her telling her the truth, then go with her story. When she asks where is her husband, answer something like you really love him. He has always looked out for you. You don’t have to be afraid. I am here with you. You are going to be ok. You will see him soon.
hope something like this helps. Dr. Ed Smink
This may or may not help. What may work for one person may not work for another. I have learned with this dease you have to become creative. Good luck!