My mom was recently hospitalized for the third time this year. Last admission in June, she did well post discharge until recently. She decided to sell her home last month and planned on moving out of state closer to her friend. She has wanted to do this for years but never had the courage to go through with it. She finally did and in the interim of moving she started to lose sleep and became suspicious and paranoid. I talked her into going to the hospital. Now she does not want the hospital to contact me. But the social worker did today after 6 days from admission because the Dr. "overruled" and said to call the family. She is still paranoid and wants to go to a nursing home. She does not have a POA but she also has no place to go once discharged. She will end up coming to my house until other arrangements are made.
I would keep pushing hard for answers (although sadly I know not always found or treatable 😥)
I would also push back hard against a discharge to your home, because if your Mom feels she needs round the clock support right now I'd believe her. It may be very hard for just you. But then again, you may want to just wrap her up & bring her home ❤️ - I get that too.
I hope some answers are found soon.
You don't give any info in your profile, like if you'll have any help if you take your mom into your home, if you are still working, have a spouse/family, and whether she has the financial resources to pay for her care. Please think long and hard about taking her in -- eventually her care needs may overwhelm you on more than one level.
I'm not sure it was a typo or not, but does your Mom really want to go to a nursing home? If so, then help her do that. If not, keep talking to social services to get them to transition her to facility care. I wish you all the best.
What kind of arrangements are you thinking should be made? I would not move her into your house. If you think she needs to be placed somewhere, by far the easiest way for that to happen is from a current facility. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you are not taking her to your home. It will be so hard to find a place and get her moved out of your house, unless she is 110% on board with it. Even if she says she is now, she could change her mind and make it reallllly difficult.