My husband who had stroke 3 years ago asked about every 2 to 3 months for a divorce. He has a dr jeckle mr Hyde personality. This is not the man I married. I don't want to be around him any more and feel more strongly each time he asked. Last week he went as far as called a lawyer but now says I was mad at the time. I'm sorry. So he yells and says mean things then he's sorry. But this is wearing me down to where I have nothing left for him. Yet I want to do the right thing.
It's important to ask about how your marriage was before his stroke. I believe that should be a large part of your decision now. If it was good, you may want to just keep working with doctors and stick it out. If it wasn't good - that may weigh heavily into your final decision.
I'd suggest some professional counseling to talk this through. It's just too much to handle alone.
Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Carol
This must be so hard on you, and probably on him as well. Would it make a difference to you if you knew it was dementia (brain changes) or depression (brain chemistry) or a combination of the two that are causing his behaivor?
Please let us know what happens. This is an issue that is more common than most people think, and we can all learn from your experience.
Divorce or living with this untenable situation are not the only options. If counseling doesn't bring about lasting improvement, consider placing him in a care center, where you can visit as his loving wife and not as his caregiver who has to try to keep him safe.