My mom has completed rehab and is supposed to be able to walk, do most of her personal hygiene, eat, and perform simple self-care tasks. I know, however, that she will not do those things if she comes home. Of course I feel I should be the eternal cheerleader, and that I should be able to motivate her while running a reasonably organized, happy home. I am leaning toward looking for an assisted living arrangement simply because her negative, demanding, bitter attitude will turn my home upside down again. Oh, the guilt... Thoughts? ...
We all just try things until hopefully something works. Hopes and prayers for all.
She is weak and legs are wobbly so she doesn't want to walk the 40 ft to the elevator and across the hall to go eat. She has a walker and/or a cane for support.
I hope Safrina is right about the guilt thing.
I have permission to add a third anti-anxiety pill. Guess its time. Now to figure out how to get it to her at the right time of day. She can't remember what it's there for if I lay it on the counter, and I don't want to add just one pill into her medicine carrousel at noon. It would only hold 9 days instead of two weeks pills.
I'll figure it out, with Gods help, I always do. God Bless.
Get her doctor on board with the plan so he can "prescribe" assisted living for her.
Go shop for a community now and get everything in place so there's no barrier to a smooth move.
And c u arnt alone!!!
Now Mom is in AL two hours away. She walks around fine without a cane (though the residents advise her to get one - I think it worries them.) My hope is that she will make friends there who will provide motivation. Thank goodness she must go down to the dining room 3 times a day to eat. Now if still sits and watches tv all day between meals, it won't bother me.
GoshI wish we had more AL here in Ireland but even that wouldnt interest mum but she has her own home and refuses to leave it.
I agree AL is the best for all! it will be hard for you and her but it will get easier she will get used to it.
Good luck this is a very tough decision but you have to think about your family. I have a cat and mum interfers in his "upbringing" oh god i just cant imagine the stress if i had children here.
Hugs!