He knows the neighbor is taking financial advantage of him by having my uncle fill up his gas tank $60 or more when he takes him to his doctor appointment, plus lunch - car is a pick up truck and doctor appointment is 10 miles away. He borrows money and does not pay back and borrows things and does not return them and helps himself to things inside the house. My uncle told me he puts up with this because he does not want to make the guy mad since he takes him to the doctor. Now his reason is he takes him to the cemetery 2 hours away, which also includes gas and a nice lunch. Last week he wanted to drive my uncles vintage car, which was discussed with the neighbor when I was last there, that it was not to be driven. My uncle ended up putting new tires on it and spent 5 minutes at the cemetery. They went to a restaurant which the neighbor wanted to go to and my uncle did not eat much as he does not like sea food.
I had made a chart of other places that would give him rides, but he does not want to make his neighbor mad. He is taking meds for aniexty issues so meeting new people is very stressful for him. He considers this person as the only one who will help him. Our families live in different states and we visit about every 6 weeks. What can I do to prevent this person from taking advantage of him?
I am going to set up a home care provider to come twice a week as company and to help with errands.
I have a customer I visit 2 hours away, my car is more gass efficient than a truck and I spend close to a tank, about $60 on the round trip. If someone was giving up their day to take me on a 2hour trip I would offer lunch.....just saying, unless uncle is poor, or if neighbor is ordering sirloin, it is not abusive.