My mom's caregiver that works for an agency asked me for $165.00 to have her heat turned back on. I’m a RN and make good money...but I have never been asked by a caregiver for money. I told her I didn’t have it, she knew I was lying but I don’t think it’s good practice for caregivers to ask family members for money. I asked her to ask her agency for an advance in her pay and she said they gave it to her. Have you ever been asked for money? I did give her a bonus for Christmas but that’s all.
Come to think of it... How do you know she hasn't asked all her clients?
I don't mean you shouldn't be sympathetic to her difficulties, as you might be to anyone who discussed their money worries with you. But if she's struggling to make ends meet then it's a bigger issue than some kind person bailing her out "just this once" will solve. What more do you know about this lady?
I too was asked by one of FIL’s caregivers. I happened to know that every agency I worked with in their hospice programs as a provider myself had very strict rules against such a thing and I told the caregiver this.
As much as I liked this individual, I reported her to the supervisor because she crossed the line of professionalism.
I knew that either way, we were in a lose-lose situation and I resented her for putting me in that position.
If I gave her the money, she’d continue to ask. If I didn’t I’d run the risk of her being resentful and either taking her frustrations out on Dad in some fashion or decide that taking something of value from our house would be okay.
this should not occur.
this is an abuse.
There may be some people that would think that if I don;t give the care giver extra money they they will not take good care of "Mom".
If you do give this person money it will not be the last time that they ask.
And just think this is asking one family...if this care giver works with more families and they ask each one..that is a lot of extra income that is never reported.
Ok just call me a cynic....
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