My mom is 88 years old and is mentally competent. I have two sisters, but I do the bulk of the helping at this point. One sister and I were talking yesterday, wondering when and how we can use the durable POA that each of us has. For example, Mom is almost at the point where she doesn't want/can't go out for dinner (which I do most nights). Mom won't agree to using her funds (ample) to hire anyone but her house cleaner. She has trouble using the microwave and the oven. My sisters and I cannot cook for her, so that leaves having someone come in and prepare simple meals or deliver them. Mom will never agree to pay for this. Can we use her funds for her care, even though she doesn't approve? She is very tough to deal with, and I am, frankly, getting exhausted fulfilling all her demands (although I love her dearly!). She feels that she has three daughters and it's up to us to care for her. If any of us makes the slightest suggestion that she hire any extra help that she needs, she has a fit. Help, please!