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My 97 yo Alz mother has 2 aides who share 24- hour live in care with 1 aide 4 days/ week the other on weekends. We have Ring cams. The other afternoon I saw my mom get angry about something the aide did. I don’t trust this aide to begin with. But we have on cam that she took mom into the bathroom where there is no cam and can hear mom yelp and whimper. When they came out, the aide tells mom that next time she’ll break her nose. My sibling took mom to urgent care next day. Her back ribs hurt and may be bruised. Needless to say we immediately told the Medicaid funded agency and sent them the videos and of course will never allow that side back, after 10 months with us. What other recourse or avenues can we pursue? Or should we simply move on.

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So glad the agency did their job. But you should follow it up with the police. If she is a CNA, the Nursing Board in your State should be notified so her license can be revoked.
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Pampie- You have handled this well. Hopefully nobody will have to take abuse from this aide ever again and the facility that hired her will check their job applicants more carefully.
Glad you found someone who is kind and competent. It was brilliant that you could document your mother's experience on video.

Documentation is key! I'd advise anyone that If a video camera isn't available, a written diary kept regularly with every visit to the LO can be very helpful. Write the good, the bad and the ugly. It is important to note date, time of day and name names. Never fail to write an entry for every visit, even if it is brief. Vague complaints never accomplish much. But a written account that the facility can check with their records can also be used effectively in court, if it ever comes to that.
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FYI the aide has been fired and the agency has blacklisted her from working elsewhere within the state. We will be reporting to police with medical records . If she or anyone shows up here, they’ll be dealt with swiftly and harshly. Thank you for the responses, although Burntcaregiver, I don’t agree with your viewpoints at all. Right now a lovely woman is with my mother and she is dedicated and caring. Too bad she’s not permanent but she is with us for a few more weeks. All but 2 aides we’ve had so far in 10 months have been hardworking and kind. We had lots of private care for 2 years then the money runs out fast when it turns into 24/7 care. Thanks all. This is rough.
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If you didn't trust this aide to begin with, why did you trust her to care for your elderly loved one alone in the house?
You've already presented your evidence to the agency this caregiver is employed by. It is for them to punish her and for sure they fired her. She will be replaced by another aide of the lowest order and poorest work ethic because that's the quality minimum wage gets. Care agencies will pretty much hire anyone and when you're getting it free from Medicaid the care expectations should be very low indeed.
I've been a senior homecare worker for a very long time. Many of my caregiving years were as agency employment before I went private pay cases only. I've seen firsthand the type of people a homecare agency will hire so I'm going to do you a favor and let you in on something.
Don't press the matter with the police. Let the homecare agency this person works for handle it. You suspect that this worker physically assaulted your 97 year old mother. You heard her on camera literally threaten to break your mother's nose next time.
This aide is a real scumbag. Keep in mind that she knows where your mother lives and may also know where you do, and scumbags always have friends in very low places.
I would not press the matter beyond reporting it to the agency she works for. You would do well to hire private help for your mother in the future. People who you can strenuously check out. People who come with real references from actual families they've worked for.
If you're dealing with a Medicaid-paid agency you're going to get what you pay for.
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So leave it to someone else's family to have their LO abused?

This is why people think they can pull this crap. Because people are to afraid of retribution. That can be part of the report and then the police will look at them if something happens. You can't get away with things when people speak up, only what's kept in the dark thrives on scum.

The aids should never know how they get paid, that is nobody's business and should never effect the level of care.
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If you suspect that your mother was physically hurt during this incident, you send the videos and any other supporting information (discharge letter from urgent care, for example) to the police. Not just to the agency. If what happened is what it sounds like, that aide shouldn't be left lying around for some other unsuspecting family to pick up.
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Why would you just move on?

This person needs to be prevented from working with vulnerable human beings.

Call 911 and report this, file the complaint and get that name on record.

I had to file complaints on behalf of my dad, it would never help him but, it protected others. Please be the one that makes this hard choice.

Or hire a thug to smash her nose in. Tempting with scum that will do this to vulnerable people.
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How horrible! Luckily you have it on camera for proof! Push it as. hard as you are able to make sure this person is punished.
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Report to police at once. This is assault and elder abuse.
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