He has walked off and been found, doesn't know anyone and we live in Perth Australia, and my sister in law doesn't know what to do. Mother in law has been scammed and given away all their money also. Don't think she is 100% either. We need to get him into a facility that will help him and get her placed elsewhere. If I could get pointed in the right direction to find financial assistance for both care that would be great, as they need all the help we can find.
Its unfortunate he thinks my mother in law is his "girlfriend"; and keeps trying to get into a car to get home to his wife and parents. It seems very obvious to me that he doesn't have regular helath care.as I think that a good DOCTOR would have seen this decline and realize my husband and I aren't getting the straight story - but I'm here to get him and her where they need to be!!
You should research his county or state for closest, VA hospital, talk to social workers at the hospital then ask them to mail you an application for Long Term care. Without P.O.A. you can't access bank account info, pension info or sign applications on his behalf so you really need to do this as a priority. I would request the VA application in the meantime so you can see the documents and info your going to need. I suggest in the meantime if you can call the Senior services office in their county to see if there are resources for them. Your sister in law may be the one that needs to be the P.O.A. if she's in the USA? The Va hospital may be able to admit him now due to his condition if he/they are in harms way. If that is the case you need those documents, if you have SS card, birth certificate, pass port for him I think you can get the papers in case you don't have them. Good luck
Good luck to you, and keep us informed. We care!
I certainly hope there is a central starting point for you, too. Maybe an internet search would help identify where to start. Is there some organization/agency that deals with abuse of vulnerable adults? Maybe they could tell you how to get help for ill person who is abusing his wife. Have you asked at his doctor's office?
Once you do get a handle on where to start, please come back and share. We learn from each other!