My parents are 88 & 89 and currently living in their own home. My Dad (89) had a heart attack and was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. I live 2 hours away, so I hired Home Instead care 2 days a week and meal delivery. I go once a week for Dr appts, grocery, etc and stay 24-48 hours. I have toured 4 assisted living facilities and narrowed it down to 2. Both are 5 min from me. I drove them here to tour them this weekend. Their chat today is how 1. They don’t need to pay for care at all since they feel they are independent. (Which they definitely are not!) 2. Want to stop home instead care and meal delivery since I come once a week.
Now a bit about me… have rheumatoid arthritis and have to have back surgery in Sept for a synovial cyst on my spine. I’ve been told my recovery time will be about one month. Therefore, my true caregiving is limited.
They refuse to see what’s best for them, and all of us. I might also add, they have a lot of money and continue to bring every discussion about their care back to dollars. Makes me so mad! I’m feeling a bit defeated, and don’t know where to turn for sound advice/help.
They made me stop the home health care and meal delivery. I’m taking them back home today and am worried sick about leaving them. How do I do what needs to be done and let them still have a voice? This is so difficult!
Thanks for any advice 🥰