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I am not certain what level of cognizance Mother has? Or what you are saying. Or asking. You have a vacation planned. Good. Mother lives with you. What plans do you have in place to care for her while you are gone? Is she being seen to 24/7? Does she have dementia? How many hours of care does she have? Is she safe the other hours when she will be alone? If you are leaving her with dementia and no one present in the home, yes, it is abuse. If you are leaving someone who does NOT have dementia, and can call 911 in emergency, safely cook for and care for herself, then she is NOT being abused. Do let us know more facts!!!!! And hope it's a great vacation planned.
Well your MIL and her caretaker are dead wrong. It’s not elder abuse. You aren’t committing elder abuse by taking a vacation without her. What she, and her caretaker are doing, however, is considered manipulation. FOG perhaps? fear obligation and guilt.
Take your vacation and enjoy it!!! Have a wonderful time knowing knowing she’s being taken care of by someone else! It is called respite care like Joann said and all caregivers deserve it!
Holy Moley my BIL and his wife leave my 96 YO FIL home all the time when they go on vacay! This year is the first time they have ever taken him anywhere! He has paid CG who come every other day for 4 hours. Maybe you will need to pay ( or she will need to pay) for more care,, but you deserve a break.. go for it however you need to set it up. And a short term stay at a facility is not a death sentence!
I think that you should find a nice nursing home for your mother to go into for respite care while you are away.
When you return, consider long and hard if you want her back in your home.
Of course it's NOT elder abuse to go away for a vacation. You may need to hire more care, using Mother's money. But putting her in a facility while you are gone makes MUCH more sense. If she falls, or requires medical treatment, there will be someone at hand.
It's hard to respond with so little facts. Is your mother capable of taking care of herself? If not, are there any arrangements for her care during your absence? When you say she has "no more hours of care" do you mean none at all for the period of your absence or no more than her usual hours? If the latter, is that enough for her needs to be met? Will there be anyone for her to call if there's an emergency while you're gone, or she needs something like food or medicine?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You have a vacation planned. Good.
Mother lives with you. What plans do you have in place to care for her while you are gone?
Is she being seen to 24/7?
Does she have dementia?
How many hours of care does she have?
Is she safe the other hours when she will be alone?
If you are leaving her with dementia and no one present in the home, yes, it is abuse. If you are leaving someone who does NOT have dementia, and can call 911 in emergency, safely cook for and care for herself, then she is NOT being abused.
Do let us know more facts!!!!! And hope it's a great vacation planned.
Take your vacation and enjoy it!!! Have a wonderful time knowing knowing she’s being taken care of by someone else! It is called respite care like Joann said and all caregivers deserve it!
When you return, consider long and hard if you want her back in your home.
Of course it's NOT elder abuse to go away for a vacation. You may need to hire more care, using Mother's money. But putting her in a facility while you are gone makes MUCH more sense. If she falls, or requires medical treatment, there will be someone at hand.
More facts, please?