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I'm a 37 year old with a not so great job and I'm on an assisted medical program for myself to pay for Dr fees as well as medications. I'm fortunate to have this care for me. However it's still a struggle for me to maintain any type of comfortable income with my job, so I'm having stresses trying to care for my father who retired early so he is not eligible for Medicare for another 3 years and has no insurance. Huge delima in getting proper care for him. I live with my father and my mother and nephew with also his girlfriend. My mother and I are the only ones who pay bills anymore so it's difficult. My sister (nephew's mother) passed away last year and had nothing, except 3 kids. That's a story in and of itself. As you may see there is a lot of hardship and this is just the tip of the iceburg. Very very hard to get around due to no license or car same for my mom. Dad drives but since the stroke he has wrecked 4 times. I'm so overwhelmed. My mother is an alcoholic and my dad racked up a majorly large amount of debt from loans and the mortgage before the stroke. He too is an alcoholic as well as chronic smoker of Marijuana. He has recently been spending his money all on internet scammers believing they are real women who will reward him when he pays them. We have tried and tried to have him understand they are not real. He quit his church and is literally on his phone 24/7. We had it cut off so he went and bought a new prepaid with money he said he did not have.. He didn't even acknowledge that his granddaughters birthday party was on that very same day. He only cared about the phone. He has become addicted to pornography even to the point he watches it in open areas of the house on his phone. I've walked in on him masturbation in the living room and was so shocked I didn't know how to address it. Not something he should be doing when my Nieces are around. I'm so lost on who to call and how to get medical care for my father without insurance. I need help majorly. He has also given the word to his ex wife he will sell her the house for $20000.00 and that would leave my mom, nephew and myself on the street with no options at this moment. The house is valued at more than $170000.00. He is using the $20000.00 to send to a supposed woman in California who needs it to get a lawyer to claim her $2000000.00 inheritance. We cannot stop him from doing this. We have tried everything in our power and need help knowing what to do and how to find the resources on top of work full time to try to keep up the debts and mortgage. HEEELLLLPPPP PLEASE!

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This is a lot of family chaos that sounds ongoing. Dad can apply now for governmental disability and health care. I think you would do well to concentrate now on some training for your own job future and move away on your own. Without a car you may need to start by renting a room in a city where there is some public transit. There are many job openings now, especially in caregiving. I would concentrate on my own life going forward, before it is too late to do so. Wishing you good luck.
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From what you've described your father should be on Medicaid and SSDI. If he had a stroke and can't work, health insurance shouldn't be a problem. He needs to visit social services and the social security office with his medical records. Has a met with a social worker yet?
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Well Dad was not too smart retiring early with no insurance. He could apply for Medicaid.

I can see taking the nephew in but not his GF and both should be at least paying room and board.

Dad? You need to have him checked for a Dementia. The stroke may have damaged his brain. And Mom needs to see a lawyer about protecting her assets in the marriage. Is she not on the deed to the house? If so, Dad can't sell it. Actually if I was Mom, I would leave and take u with her. Taking half of the assets with her. Nephew and GF can find jobs paying enough to support themselves. Then put Dad on the radar wit APS.
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I don't have any answers for all the other nonsense your father is into, but if he has no insurance he needs to apply for Medicaid.
I'm sorry that you're having to live with 2 alcoholic parents. That must be very difficult. And the fact that he's masturbating in front of the girls in the house is disturbing to say the least. He needs to put out, and perhaps placed in the appropriate facility covered by Medicaid.
Again I really don't have the answers for his perversions,(other than to get him out) but something MUST be done to protect the women and girls in the house ASAP. I'm sorry that you're stuck in the middle of this. May God bless you and keep you.
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