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What do you do after your last parent dies and you need to access the bank account to pay for cremation and bills, etc? I am the executor of his will. I know you aren't supposed to alert the bank right away. There is no one else jointly on that account

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Sorry, I did not read all of the responses.

Your not an Executor until you present the Will for probate. Which in my State cannot be done until 9 or 10 days after death. Once probate excepts you, you will be given a short certificate so you can handle finances. I too have heard once a bank is notified of a death that accounts can be frozen until the short certificate is produced.

IMO, Funeral directors probably do not get their money right away. I would think some people need to wait for insurance payouts or the Executor to get access. I would think It all depends how a bank acct is set up to if it gets frozen or not.

Also, if there is no Will you still need to go to probate to get a short certificate. At this point, you will be made an Administrator who is alllowed to pay bills and if there is an estate take on the responsibilities of an Executor. The State determines who inherits. In my State anything under 20k does not need to be probated but a short certificate is needed for paying of bills.
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I am very sorry for the loss of your dad.

I didn't notify any of my mother's financial institutions about her death until after I made an appointment with her accountant. And there was absolutely nothing nefarious about my intentions. I wanted to have the new tax ID number when I made the notifications so that I could make a seamless transfer of her accounts. The new federal tax ID number was as necessary for her financial institutions as her death certificate.

In my mother's case with her funeral costs: the funeral home had told me that there was no rush on paying the bill. They understand that, in many cases, the family has to wait for finances to be released/insurance claims to be paid, etc., and that many times the money just isn't immediately at hand. However, in my case, my mother had insisted on signing some blank checks a few months before she passed, so I would "have them at hand" should I need them - which I thought was somewhat silly at the time - but I used one of those to pay for her funeral. I wasn't worried about anyone accusing me of "stealing" money, because 1) I had all necessary receipts and 2) I did all of this with my sisters' knowledge and agreement.

Insofar as the cremation costs, were I you, I would reach out and ask them directly. You will be far from the first person who doesn't have immediate available funds to pay outright for funeral costs, especially since accounts DO get closed after someone dies and the money is "frozen" for a time. Regarding your aunt, does she not have income of her own to cover the utility bills? It is a relatively simple thing to change the automatic payment on something from one account to another, that's usually just a phone call. The utilities should realistically be switched to her name at this point anyway, for as long as she is still living in the house.

I hope you can get some answers from the cremation people.
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jolobo Jun 20, 2024
Thanks. Your answer is helpful. My aunt has the funds. The thing is she may move to assisted living within the next month, and she is quite unreasonable so I don't think she would agree to changing names on the accounts.
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As for you question, I honestly don't know, will the funeral home take a down payment??? And hold the rest until you get things figured out?
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Jolobo, I hope someone here know what to do, it's very worrisome that a 101-year-old is living in the house. Is she alone? This is why I advocate adult children being listed as co-owners of all bank accounts of their parents, because I'm fairly certain now the bank will not even speak to you about the account. You will have to go through probate which will cost time and a little bit of money. Why didn't your parent talk to you about their wishes after death? There was no burial insurance? If he had a will made, who was the attorney that prepared it? Can you talk to him for advice?
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jolobo Jun 20, 2024
No insurance. His attorney is retired. Yes, my aunt is being advised, don't worry. But that was not part of my question. He said he wanted to be cremated and no calling hours. There is no probate because it's a "small estate". Why didn't my dad do a lot of things, really.
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Notify the bank of the death. The account will be frozen until a death certificate is provided. The account can then Be dispersed to whoever is the beneficiary. See an attorney to get the probate process started. The court will issue a letter of testamentary that authorizes the executor to begin handling the estate. Also an EIN number is issued. You need these things to open a bank account for the estate. You will need this if your are doing things such as selling property. I used my own funds to pay dad’s utilities, minor repairs on the house till it sold. After the sale of the house, the estate paid me back for my expenses (saved receipts and gave to lawyer). The expenses were itemized for all the heirs to see when the estate was settled. Dad had already paid most of the funeral, but I did end up paying extra to move the service indoors on a cold January day. The estate reimbursed me for this also. Without being a joint owner on the bank account I don’t know how you could access it to pay bills.
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jolobo Jun 20, 2024
Thank you for your response. There is no beneficiary though. And I cannot tell the bank because what about his next SS check for most of June? Also, his 101 year old sister is still living in the house and we can't have the lights go off and the phone go off because that is all paid from the bank account. Those accounts will all have to be moved to her, I guess, but it's just too soon. I know I have to tell the bank, but not right away. I read that that is a mistake. I really wanted to know how to pay the crematory today without using my own money.
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To clarify, are you saying that no one was joint on your parent's account?

The executor will need to bring the death certificate to the bank plus the Will (proving the identify of the Executor), plus photo ID of the Executor. I don't know the reason you would not notify them right away...?
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waytomisery Jun 19, 2024
Good point about clarification !
I read it as OP was jointly on the account with parent and “ no one else” . But OP could mean no one at all.
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I’m in Pennsylvania , if you lived here and …..If it is TRULY “ a JOINT account “ with just you and your parent , then 1/2 the money is considered yours . I don’t know if the banking laws are different in other places.

My husband recently found this out after his father’s death earlier this year. And since there was no beneficiary listed , my husband by default inherited the other half of the account. The account did not go in probate , but inheritance taxes had to be paid on the 1/2 that he inherited. Actually there were two joint accounts , a savings and a checking account at one bank . He moved all his Dad’s cash from Florida to a bank near us when we moved his Dad to be in AL near us.

This serves as a cautionary tale as my husband did not want joint accounts and the bank did not explain . They just said they couldn’t do it the way my husband wanted , which was to just be able to sign and pay his father’s bills. My father in law was with my husband at the bank so they ended up doing joint accounts.

What we have figured out is that at the time the bank accounts were opened , my husband didn’t have POA papers , it’s a long story , but his Dad had lost them and could not remember the name of the lawyer . Then it took forever to get the new lawyer to draw up the papers , 5 months from the time they met with her in fact until she had them ready. We now assume not having POA papers is why the bank said the only way my husband could pay his Dad’s bills was to be on a joint account .

This serves as a cautionary tale because since the money did not go in probate it all went to my husband . But he knew that was not his father’s intentions . So my husband being the honest person he is , split the money per the will instructions with his sibling and step siblings. In order to do this my husband had to gift the money to his sibling and step siblings . The estate attorney handling probate did tell my husband that legally it was all his to keep . Husband still did the gifting. It was a very substantial amount of money . We have to now hope that nothing catastrophic would happen in the next 5 years where one of us would need Medicaid because of the look back . My father in law had other investments that are in probate . To top it all off my FIL did not split it up evenly between his biological children and his step children , a slap in the face as he favored his step children , meanwhile we are the ones that made sure he got care and was safe .

Is it a joint account ? Or were you a signatory on the account ? if you were simply allowed to do banking as POA then you were a signatory . I’m not sure but I have heard that the bank will keep $10,000 for funeral expenses available for POA or maybe it’s for Executor of the will ? but will lock up the rest of the account for probate . Ask the bank .

My father in law prepaid his funeral .
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waytomisery Jun 20, 2024
Jo , I apologize for misunderstanding that you were not a joint on the account . Had you been you would have had access to that money . Also sorry that your Dad did not prepay to make it easier . I hope the cremation provider is understanding . Please let us know what happens . As we can all learn .

Also condolences on your loss and having your aunt’s issues to deal with as well .
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It's illegal to remove money from the account without going through the proper steps, even if you are executor. There's no reason to hide anything from the bank.

Is there a trust? Now it's irrevocable and there's procedures online how to go about this.

If no trust, get a copy of the death certificate, any paperwork you have assigning you as executor, and proceed to the probate court in your jurisdiction.
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jolobo Jun 20, 2024
Yes, there is a reason to delay telling the bank - and most lawyers will tell you this. The electricity payment, the next SS check for part of June, which I know he would be entitled to. My 101 year old aunt still lives there. But my question was not about that at all, but how to pay the Crematory without using my money today. Do they accept waiting until the money can be accessed?
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Yes, you DO notify the bank at once. And the account is closed until the executor gets the new EIN. Then the account is put in the name of the estate under the new EIN and bills will be paid. YOu can reimburse yourself for funds that you put on your own charge card or however you paid.

The Funeral establishment will noticy SS right away and they usually will freeze bank accounts if SS recover needed of funds. There is now no POA as that ends with death. The executor sees an attorney at once when the death certificate arrives. Attorney will go online at once and get you the tax EIN and then the account gets put in the new tax number. This is one of the quickest things to get done once you have death certificate.

Someone at the funeral establishment can help advise you on this. So can your bank officer.
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jolobo Jun 20, 2024
Then why am I reading from lawyers that you should NOT tell the bank right away? After notifying the bank, the account will be frozen, meaning nothing can be taken out or deposited. So the payment for utilities, etc? Not a good idea to tell the bank until everything getting paid from it can be assessed.
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Why wouldn't you want to inform the bank, I can see no reason to hide the death unless someone has plans to move money around illegally. Once the bank is presented with the death certificate and the will the executor should have access to all accounts to pay whatever bills are outstanding and to then disburse the remainder of the estate.
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jolobo Jun 20, 2024
Because f you contact the bank before consulting an attorney, you risk account freezes, which could severely delay auto-payments and direct deposits and most importantly mortgage payments. But my question is how to pay the Crematory without using my money today. Do they accept waiting until the money can be accessed?
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