There are assisted living facilities that offer respite care services specifically for families to be able to travel.
Call agencies in your area and Council on Aging to see if they have any recommendations for you.
Call universities in your area to see if any nursing students are available to help. Students always need money. I know a woman who hired a student to help with her adult son who has disabilities.
Your profile says nothing about your mom having any dementia, so why can't she stay by herself? And why are you uncomfortable since she lives in your home? Just make sure she has all necessary phone numbers to neighbors or friends, and if need be you can place some inexpensive security cameras around the house, so you can check on her from afar.
You accept that it won't be a comfortable thing. You have gone from being daughter to caregiver. That's a change. You are now feeling responsible for everything. Is she comfy. Is she safe. Is she happy. Does she understand I have to...... And on and on. You can't fix it all. Life is NEVER about happy all the time, and it surely isn't when you are old. I am 81. I don't expect to be happy all the time. But then I never did. The problem comes when the child feels RESPONSIBLE for that. You didn't cause it. You can't fix it. Not ALL of it ALL of the time.
Best wishes out to you. Lower the expectations. ANYTHING can happen to Mom when you are gone, but guess what? ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN TO YOU any time, as well. Right?
There are assisted living facilities that offer respite care services specifically for families to be able to travel.
Call agencies in your area and Council on Aging to see if they have any recommendations for you.
Call universities in your area to see if any nursing students are available to help. Students always need money. I know a woman who hired a student to help with her adult son who has disabilities.
Wishing you all the best.
Just make sure she has all necessary phone numbers to neighbors or friends, and if need be you can place some inexpensive security cameras around the house, so you can check on her from afar.
And on and on.
You can't fix it all.
Life is NEVER about happy all the time, and it surely isn't when you are old. I am 81. I don't expect to be happy all the time. But then I never did.
The problem comes when the child feels RESPONSIBLE for that.
You didn't cause it.
You can't fix it. Not ALL of it ALL of the time.
Best wishes out to you. Lower the expectations. ANYTHING can happen to Mom when you are gone, but guess what? ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN TO YOU any time, as well. Right?