My brother is POA of mother. He moved my mom to another state so the trust had to be changed. Of course he then change the trust to benefit he and his wife. He changed the 2nd power of attorney to his wife. He also included a clause that if I challenge anything in the trust I recieve $1. I challenged the change and my mom agreed she would have never done that. He then moved her to an unknown location for approx 45 days before telling me where she was. That was 5 years ago. He has now relocated her to the state I live in and is treating me like I'm a criminal and is limiting my access to my moms health information. I wasn't able to reach her by phone for 24 hours, so knowing he would limit the assisted living from giving me info I went straight to the hospital in the area and asked what room she was in. She was there and I walked in her room and she broke down crying. She knows my brother is limiting those who love her from seeing her. The care facility she is in has demanded that he provide legal documentation indicating they are not able to contact me under any circumstances. He has not provided anything. In the meantime this POA bully's me and treats me like he is control of all, power of everything. As a sibling, what are my rights? The care center says my brother and his wife rarely visit my mom and they see me visit and give my mom compassionate love all the time. My brother is bi-polar and I'm afraid he'll harm me. How can an individual with a mental health disorder be a POA in the first place, and on top,of that, change my parents trust? I could care less about the money. I just want to be with my mom and comfort her through the isolation from family and loneliness she feels every day. She was now just diagnosed with cancer. My brother decided that no preventitive care be done. We can't let individuals like this victimize our parents, this is just wrong! I should not have to spend a fortune hiring an attorney to fight my brother, for my mom's rights. Any advice you can direct me to would be appreciated. Thank you. I live and my mother live in Minnesota.
I don't understand how anyone is allowing him to make medical decisions for your mother based on a legal/financial POA. I would immediately speak to the AL and hospital staff about this and advise them that he doesn't have the authority to make medical decisions.
If necessary, contact APS and advise them that he's mandatorily withholding cancer treatment but has no legal authority to do so.
And, if there is no other recourse and brother is actually abusive to mom in some way, adult protective services can be involved, though they will not get in the middle of financial disputes or family disagreements if the person is getting decent care.