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MIL is being transferred in the next 24-48 hours to a SNF. She has severe dementia and now a broken hip that was operated on last Friday. Once she is transferred, I must go back to my home state to get back to life. I have another post on here of my life with her over the last 6 weeks. I halted my life to care for her due to the other caregiver going to jail. I am at the end of my time here and must get back to work. I have already lost a lot of time and money, with no income coming in. I literally have 2 days left! So, what items do I send with her? Just basic comfortable clothing, shoes, socks bras? I know I will not send any valuables or money. Her room will already have a TV. From what I understand the SNF will have most of what she needs for hygiene purposes, toiletries, and incontinence supplies. What else am I missing?

She should have several changes of clothing, basic clothes, underwear, socks and good shoes - but EVERYTHING must be labeled!
Use a sharpie marker to label her name inside shirt collars, pant waistbands, even on the bottom of her socks and shoes!
Rehab is Not going to be a long term stay! The Rehab facility can only keep her as long as she is making progress in her physical therapy, then she must be transitioned elsewhere, either home, if she is able, or to a skilled nursing facility for long term care. That is to meet billing requirements.
Some in-patient care facilities offer both Rehab (short term) and long term care.

That is a question you can ask the admissions director. Also, they may ask you whether a family member will be picking up her dirty laundry and bringing clean clothes, or whether you are expecting them to do her laundry. This is why clothes need to be marked!
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KLK7982: Clothes, socks and shoes will be needed.
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Your problem is, with Dementia if she does not cooperate with her therapy, they may not keep her. Medicare pays for the first 20 days 100%. 80 to 100 days 50%. Mom is responsible for the other 50%. If you can't care for Mom, you may need to transfer her from Rehab right to a Long-term care facility. If she has money it will be private pay, if not she will need to apply for Medicaid. Rehab is not a permanent solution.

I would talk to the Social Worker and explain your situation. I would also ask her what Mom will need in clothing. Some places laundry is a 3 day turn around. I would have at least have two extra sets of clothing over their turn around. Comfortable clothes easy to put on. You will need a bra for each daybof clothing. Socks? Lots, they lose them. One pair of comfortable shoes. Maybe slippers. The SW should be able to help you and give you a list of what is provided. Take pictures of everything especially her glasses and hearing aids. My Mom was wearing someone elses glasses. I had a picture so made it easier to find the correct ones.
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It sounds like you have a good list of what she will need. Put her name in all her clothing. I would also send several sets of pjs or gowns.
Weekends are difficult transfers especially if she needs pain meds as the NH will have to order her meds or that is how it was for my LOs. I would take any meds she has from home that she is still on and see if the rehab will accept them. I had one that wouldn’t and one that would.
I know you are ready to get home. She was lucky to have you see her through this tough time.
Wishing you both easier days ahead.
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KLK7982 Oct 25, 2024
Thank you so much! I do appreciate your kind words! This has been VERY challenging. I sure do miss my daughter. I have only seen her 5 times in the last 6 weeks!

Hospital has been great but I have helped the RN's and techs a lot here. I have even helped her poo 3 times now. I do believe I have earned my nursing badge here! haha!

Medicare advantage approved her for the facility right behind the hospital. We are just waiting for the facility to respond back. I hope this doesn't take long today to find out. I have all of her stuff labeled and packed. I even packed all her meds just in case. She hasn't been taking a lot of pain meds, just Tylenol as needed. She only takes a VERY low dose of oxycodone at night time.

Wish us luck and send us prayers please!!!
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