My brother in law is dying of pancreatic cancer - only diagnosed last month. He has been like a brother - my sis & him divorced but have stayed close . I haven't seen him since my cancer fight five yrs ago - He only has a matter of days -what do I say to him & how do I say goodbye?
What do you need right now? What do you need from me right now? I LOVE YOU.
And I'm so sorry to read of his situation; pancreatic cancer is such a devastating cancer.
I told both my parents that I understood they had to go and that I would see them again when my time came.
And I think I would phrase it a little differently, like "Mom, I'm so glad you and Dad raised us to be independent adults, able to function well on our own."
Please don’t be afraid to touch him...in my experience of working with Hospice patients over the years I’ve seen time and time again friends and loved ones feeling unsure of what to do when visiting with a dying individual.
Touch is important in this life and it can be so comforting to someone who may be frightened or feel alone in their journey toward the end of their life.
A simple hand on a shoulder or a gentle arm rub can make all the difference in calming and allowing your loved one to feel a connection.
Certainly make sure where you decide to touch is free from pain as you’d not want to cause any further discomfort.
Bless you for having such a caring heart.
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