What if Alzheimer's disease senior has agreed to move to ALF from hospital, but doesn't want to sign a friend or family member as POA? Can she still move in?
She has enough cash to pay for 2 years in memory care unit. Then her house and property would need to be sold to pay for an additional 4 years. So money isn't a problem, it's her stubbornness over letting anybody have power of attorney.
She has capacity on good days, (when she takes her meds) but she has Alzheimer’s, so she says "no" to whatever she feels like saying no to.
Since we have suddenly gotten so close to walking her through the ALF-MC doors, I just want to make sure they will take her and get their money FROM HER.
We are going to have the attorney visit her in the hospital on Monday to very nicely explain the POA papers (with me, her daughter, as poa) and pray she doesn't turn her nose up and say "no, I'm in charge of my money."
Facilities are notorious for trying to make family financially responsible, be very aware of this fact while being educated on what they are trying to teach you from them.
By law her children are her next of kin and have rights without responsibility.
Have her sign to avoid any problems.
I did this to pay all my dads bills and it worked great.
I gained permission by asking him if he would like to have the bank send the monthly checks and he said yes. That gave me the permission to set it all up.
It was really nice doing it that way as I had the monthly statement as proof of how his money was being spent.
I would not do auto pay, I would never give the facility the right to just withdraw money and I would not allow them to become representative payee for her social security. You do that if it is needed but, you retain the power over her money to pay the facility. It is so simple to schedule a payment and it allows you to use her personal needs allowance, if Medicaid becomes involved, to actually buy her the items that she needs and wants.
You got this lady, keep up the good work.
Full neuro exam was required to assess his competency across various areas as dx dementia not yet formal.
If already dx that can really impact ability to sign POA - but legal professionals specialising in elder care would know what & how to deal with this.
I saw that it was down to the language used with my 'mate' (above). He point blank refused when asked if he wanted to keep his POA. But when asked *who would you like to help you financially if you couldn't do it yourself?* He answered straight off: his son.
I don't know if your mom can understand that by not appointing someone she knows as POA, she may well end up with strangers controlling her money, where she lives and the like.
I am not exagerating.
I can see them doing it if there was no contact with family and they were not being paid but, doing it while they are being paid and have a contract person seems questionable. Do you know?
Thank you
The ALF tells me there are two boxes on the paperwork, one is for "responsible party" and one is for "designated party".
The lady I spoke to said I can be the person who makes sure checks are signed without being personally liable for mother's debt. She said someone with more knowledge will explain the difference between the two "parties" to me on Monday.
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Sorry if I was unclear.
The assisted living facility is not asking for power of attorney.
I am trying to figure out if the assisted living/memory care facility will accept an elderly alzheimers patient who does not have anyone on earth assigned as her POA.
I know it should have been done sooner. I tried.
I honestly don't give a hoot about inheriting any of her money or her property. I want every cent to go to this ALF as long as they keep her.
But will they turn her away because she can't sign checks at some point? I don't know how they get their money.
Care manager said ALF had not called her back yet, so I guess I'll call them now.
She CAN'T for someone to be POA if she is non compis mentis now.