What are considered reasonable expectactions in contacting an invoked health care proxy? Is this a good question to ask the facility or health care providers caring for your loved one? Do they differ from facility to facility and health care provider to health care provider?
I was surprised that my loved one's current facility confirmed a potential family meeting just one hour in advance and after several emails reaching out to them as reminders. We asked for a 48 hr turnaround time request for family meetings in the future. Their only 60 minute confirmation seemed unreasonable from the facility.
Another demanded a family meeting within less than half a day's notice. It occurred at time that did not work well for me. I was in an open-spaced office with little privacy. The social worker/discharge planner did not seem to care. She said the insurance company was demanding it.
I assume it is ok for the proxy to get a good night's slept. I assume it would be wrong to do international travel without informing the insitution and/or refuse to return phone calls forever. I assume returing phone calls if not urgent with 4-8 hrs or even more is acceptable.
The best social workers and discharge planners I have worked with gave me their business email address as often I am in work meetings. I find communication via email if it does not contain any hippa violations or confidential medical information is fine and very helpful.
Your document says what it does, should specify who has a right to make what decisions. USUALLY an advanced directive isn't sufficient to do anything but answer emergency questions regarding emergency procedures already enumerated in the document.
We cannot see or access your document; we can't answer your questions. So DO KEEP THAT ATTORNEY APPOINTMENT so as to fully understand your powers under the document.
In the last one you posted you said ur seeing an Elder Lawyer on Tuesday. I think you should just wait until you see the Lawyer. He/she should be able to help you with the Facility who is making demands of you. Good luck and update us on what you find out. We learn from others.