My mother does not talk. She is not interested in going outside, or participating in anything, not even music. I do not want to bring up anything that might hurt he if she connected to them. Her home, her pet, her husband who passed. She hates questions, maybe because they confuse her. Poor Mommy, how awful this disease is. Any suggestions? I tell her I love her all the time, past that I sit like a log, lost for the right words, that never come.
Read the newspaper.
Just talk about what is going on in your life.
Interested in going out or not it might be nice just to say.."Mom I need to go for a walk, let's go together"..get her into a wheelchair if necessary and go for a walk. If she is in a facility walk the grounds outside or even down the halls if it is cold or raining.
And last but not least.
It is your presence that can comfort her. Just being there is a help. Even if all you do is read to yourself.
Hold hands. Give her a hand rub, back rub.
Touch is so important and many people loose that. I can feel my husband relax when I rub his back, his breathing changes, the noises he makes change. It is fascinating that a back rub can do as much as a drug.
Go to the bathroom' rather than just yes. Or sometimes we try giving her 2 options like do you want crackers or fruit. She doesn't answer 90% of the time but we keep trying. Also, my dad is better at doing this than I am, but when he comes home from work, he just tells her about his day like he normally would. He never gets much response but since it seems she's aware of things, he still
Tries to talk to her like his wife as much as possible (although it's very hard sometimes) Last thing is we try not to overdo it either. When she was talking, if someone talked loudly or too much, she would say, you talk a lot :)
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