I don't want a problem at the Nursing Home about this. He is now hostile toward the nursing home and wants Mom out of there. Mom has dementia. Hate to see the grandson banned from his grandma, but what to do?? Brother is no longer talking to me and threatening going in and blowing up at the nursing home staff. What can I do?
I do not know how much a nursing home can do unless there is a rule about lengths of visits, or if the child is getting in the way of their care for your mom. Let your Mom's case worker know what is happening, she will notify the various staff members. Perhaps if they give your brother a stern warning, he will be more compliant. I know from experience that the minute you ask a selfish sib for anything, it is met with resistance...that is their way of coping with their world - but you do not have to put up with it.
I am not sure if PoAs give you the authority to keep your Mom in the NH if he convinces her to leave. You may need a guardianship to protect her...talk to a knowledgeable elder care attorney. Also, I have found that the social wokers at my local hospital to be very helpful.
Good luck....do not let your sibs disfunction effect your life....these people are energy vampires!
Again.. he can't remove your mother from the facility (he doesn't have the 'power' to do so) and I would make them aware of the situation (again).
Please talk to them.
This is not rational behavior & sounds like he needs some assistance himself. The NH is in no way responsible for the grandson & they may call the authorities on your brother.
This needs to be addressed immediately!
Who has medical power of attorney for your mother? If it is your brother, there is a chance he CAN get her removed from the nursing home. But then what?
So many other factors that are unknown to us, please update, or talk to the nursing home to get this matter resolved as quickly as possible.