What would you say to a brother who always says, "I would help you with your doctors' appointments, but you need to be more grateful."

I am with Lea. Find some other way to get to appts. What does he mean by "more grateful", you pay him.

I am sure your County Office of Aging supplies Senior bussing. I come from a small populated area so bus wise just the transit system and they stay on the main roads. If ur on Medicaid, they supply transportation as does the Red Cross.

I found with Mom some of her appts could be cut back to every six months to a year.

Need more information, is it you who needs transportation or someone else?

Me, I would call Uber and be done with it, or checkout the county bus system, here one can call and they will pick you up and swing back around to get you for around $10.

I would say, forget about it, I'll call an Uber.

We don’t know what your relationship with your brother is, so it’s hard to answer your question.

Also, are you referring to yourself needing a ride to the doctor or a parent needing a ride? Can you please fill in the blanks for us? Thanks.

I suppose that your brother feels that he wishes to be appreciated if he is doing a favor for you.

I’m not judging your behavior. I don’t know anything about you.

I’m curious if you make a point to say something like, ‘I would very much appreciate if you could give me a ride to the doctor.’ Or do you expect him to automatically consent to giving you a ride because he is your brother?

In our area, Council on Aging provides free rides to the doctor for seniors in the community. Do you have this available in your area and then you wouldn’t have to depend upon your brother for rides.

Best wishes to you.

What about "Thankyou"?

Have you asked your brother how much he can help? Do you need .ore help than he can give?
Do you have alternative methods to get to your appointments as well?